Self-Doubt Monsters: The Lavargh – Pressure to be Perfect

(This post is part of a Self-Doubt Monsters series: Meeting the Self-Doubt Monsters. After you’ve met them, you’ll know how to stop self-doubt attacks!)
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Lavargh Monster is all about PRESSURE.

Pressure to be more, see more, please more.

Blubublubububublbub.

(That’s him bubbling away, like a perfect volcano about to erupt. But, soon, because of him, you’ll be blublublublubbing. He’s a LavARGH monster – sometimes a LavWAAAAH monster.)

He’s worried that if you don’t achieve anything then you won’t be anything to anyone.

Well – that’s worrying.

You are something.

If others – and Lavargh Monster – don’t think so, that’s often because of their own problems their own monsters.

(Unless, of course, you have done something terrible, like putting toe-nails in caramel.)

You might think you can stop a Lavargh monster by doing things perfectly.

But even if you do, perfect can sometimes never be enough.

So take a deep breath. Release the pressure that is blubbing urgently.

In breath, out breath – puff. Puff gently on your Lavargh monster to cool him down.

Gradually, gradually gradually, he’ll ease up.

Keep those breaths so long and puffy that they’re like a fluffy puffy cloud of calm.

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(This post is part of a series: Meeting the Self-Doubt Monsters. After you’ve met them, you’ll know how to stop self-doubt attacks! )

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Self-Doubt Monsters: Gruff Mr. Stickuff – Fear of Not Being Good Enough

(This post is part of a Self-Doubt Monsters series: Meeting the Self-Doubt Monsters. After you’ve met them, you’ll know how to stop self-doubt attacks!)

Self-Doubt Monsters: Gruff Mr Stickuff, Fear of Not Being Good Enough

 

Gruff Mr Stickuff is the only stick that is not brown and sticky.

(He makes Judgey-Goop, though, and that’s brown. And sticky.)

Gruff Mr Stickuff is nosey and imposey.

He will pluck you up and measure you up – and you will be found disappointing.

He’ll tell you that you’re not smart enough. Not tough enough. Not chuffed enough. Not rambunctious nor scrumptious enough.

(He’s just a ruler with a top-hat, though. You can call him Mr Stick. Ick.)

He says there’s no point trying if you can’t do it perfectly.

And he’ll compare you to others, certainly.

But, others aren’t you. How can you compare?

Silence his gruff bluffs by telling him to measure what you ARE.

You ARE enough. You ARE up to snuff!

Know what you’re good at and tell him so.

(And you are like who he compares you to, deep down. Your head is in the same place as theirs. Your liver doesn’t differ. We’re all trying our best.)

The next time Gruff Mr Stickuff stomps up to you, he’ll need to get a bigger stick.

Because you can’t be measured.

You’re just that wonderful.

How to Stop A Self-Doubt Monster: Gruff Mr Stickuff, Fear of Not Being Good Enough

Let’s meet the next Self-Doubt Monster – The Lavargh: Pressure to be Perfect.

(This post is part of a series: Meeting the Self-Doubt Monsters. After you’ve met them, you’ll know how to stop self-doubt attacks! )

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Self-Doubt Monsters: The Whatifski – Fear of What If

(This post is part of a Self-Doubt Monsters series: Meeting the Self-Doubt Monsters. After you’ve met them, you’ll know how to stop self-doubt attacks!)

Self-Doubt Monsters: The Whatifski, Fear of What If

The Whatifski likes to lurk and the Whatifski is a jerk.

He asks you things like “what if they don’t like you?” and “what if you’re really an emu?”

He is iffy and not spiffy.

He is a mess. (A Pessimess.)

He hides himself as a set of logical steps. Each step is a ‘what if’ to ponder.

(He’s methodical with his monocle.)

And those ‘what ifs’ can be silly – they go from “what if I don’t put enough milk in my cup of tea?” to “what if there’s no guarantee?” to “what if my cat goes hang-gliding and hits a cabbage tree?”

(Oh, Whatifski.)

With many what ifs to explore, you won’t be sure any more.

You probably won’t fail – but who knows what ifs will happen?

(Though, ‘what ifs’ don’t have to sadden. What if something goes right?)

Send that Whatifski packing!

Thank him for making plans for you. Thinking about the worst can prepare you for the best –but the trick is not to let fear stop you.

So befriend your Whatifski –  but climb over him. Build a ramp of “why nots” to go over that “what if” staircase.

It’s better to try than listen to a Whatifski’s sigh.

Why not?

VWOOSH!

How to Stop A Self-Doubt Monster: The Whatifski, Fear of What If

Let’s meet the next Self-Doubt Monster: Gruff Mr. Stickuff: Fear of Not Being Good Enough.

(This post is part of a series: Meeting the Self-Doubt Monsters. After you’ve met them, you’ll know how to stop self-doubt attacks! )

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Need whimsical illustration? Commission me on TISPR!

tispr recently featured my magical doodling powers on their freelancing platform. ✨

If you need whimsical illustrations (dorky holiday greeting cards perhaps!?) you can commission me through the app. ☺️

(Download it here – or shoot me a message!)

(TISPR is the free mobile marketplace to locally buy and sell services from the fiercest freelancers on the planet. Their mission is to let you make a living by following your passion – and to connect the community with other wild service providers, like pantomimes and underwater photographers and volleyball tutors. Highly recommended!)

I’m excited to hopefully brighten your day with magical doodles, and grateful to the TISPR team for this opportunity!

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SNAP! Speaking on Animation at Los Angeles Comic-Con, 2016

Jack Enyart, Larry Houston, MJ Lallo, Xavier Manuel, and Stella Lightheart speak on the Scriptwriters Network panel, "TV Toons: From Script to Screen" at Los Angeles Comic Con 2016

SNAP!

A few weeks ago, I spoke about animation at Los Angeles Comic Con on the “TV Toons: From Script to Screen” panel. 

Jack Enyart hosted, quizzing Larry HoustonMJ Lallo, Xavier Manuel and myself about the animation pipeline for television and film. Much gossip, giggles and (hopefully) good sense was dispelled.

The panel was sponsored by the Scriptwriter’s Network – but we mainly covered the ins and outs of production, rather than story. With a background as an assistant manager at places like Warner Brothers and Weta Digital, I’m passionate to foster creativity in business and support those who are behind some of my favourite entertainment escapes. Whilst the creations can be dorky, the work that goes into them is not. Some of the most fun, talented souls I have ever met work in animation and I’m so happy to be a part of that world!

In the photo, Jack’s saying something Marvel-ous. (As per usual!) He’s a man of character, supremely talented, and I hope he doesn’t mind if I now fondly consider him an adopted Uncle.

(We met through my little Volkswagen, Benny the Beetle. When I moved to LA, I needed wheels – then through a stroke of luck, the seller connected me to Jack. Upon learning that he had written for some of my favourite cartoons and comics (amongst them The Jetsons, Johnny Bravo, Pink Panther) it was imperative that I lure him on a brunch mission to talk further. Thankfully, I succeeded. Praise be for breakfast food.)

I’m grateful to have been part of the Los Angeles Comic Con line up, and I’m looking forward to next year’s event!
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Self-Doubt Monsters: Know Them to Stop Them

The Monsters of Self-Doubt Visualised

Sometimes, monsters aren’t under your bed – monsters are in your head, in the form of self-doubt.

They nibble on your confidence. They quibble on your competence.

(They say you can’t do things. Never-ever.)

BLEGH

Attacks can happen when you’re tired, hungry, or lonely – tirungly.

(Or they can happen whenever really.)

It’s hard to stop an attack from a monster in your noggin – but it can be done.

Sometimes, just knowing a self-doubt kerfuffle is happening is enough to feel a bit better. You can choose to listen to the monster – or listen to yourself, instead.

(And while he is scary, it’d be scarier if you listened to him. The world would be very different if everyone listened to their self-doubt monsters. What would happen if adventurers were afraid to explore, or if artists didn’t believe in their paintbrushes?)

Try listening to yourself – and there will be nothing that you can’t do.

But sometimes you need some battle strategies to do that. First you need to know what you’re dealing with. Then you need to know how to deal with it.

Hopefully this field guide will help.

Let’s go kick some monster butt.

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Who do you need to meet first?

The Whatifski: Fear of ‘What If?

Gruff Mr. Stickuff: Fear of Not Being Good Enough

The Lavargh: Pressure to be Perfect

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A Trip to TISPR

This morning, the fine folks at TISPR invited me to their beautiful Santa Monica office.

(TISPR is a fantastic mobile marketplace to buy and sell products from the fiercest freelancers on the planet. Their mission is to let you make a living by following your passion – and to connect the community with other wild service providers, like pantomimes and underwater photographers and volleyball tutors, all in the same place. Highly recommended! )

I offer my illustration and writing services on the TISPR platform and the team were gracious enough to offer to produce a video resume for me. (Thank you!) Their community has so much talent listed  – I’m so happy to count myself among them.

The video should be up in a few weeks – in the meantime, we have photos…

Thank you so much to Lindsey, Graham, and the TISPR team for all the hard work you do!

Stella Lightheart - Illustrator - TISPR

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The Avocanda

I’ve been thinking a lot lately in terms of “either/or”, “yes/no” and “if this/then” –

And that’s turned me into a little puddle of overthinking.

Bleh.

Turns out, when you’re designing your own life, there isn’t really a “best” way to move forward.

As John Paulos says, ‘Uncertainty is the only certainty, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.’

So, I made a little friend to help with this conundrum.

I hope he helps you, too.

 

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